Living begins with awareness. Even if that means just becoming aware that I am not aware. That I don’t know what I don’t know. And that’s OK.
One of the profound damages of addiction (and life in general if we allow it to be that way) is that it arrests our emotional and intuitive development.
Life leaves us behind. This is one of the reasons why we often experience such a profound sense of not fitting in.
Recovery is less about change than it is about returning to the journey of becoming who I can be. It’s about unlocking and expressing what is already inside.
And that is why it’s futile to try and find yourself.
You know where you are. ‘Trying to find myself’ is just a euphemism for the emptiness of profound lack of meaning. It’s an expression of unawareness.
Unawareness that, in reality, every moment in life has meaning. Merely for the fact that it irrevocably changes the very next moment.
So what do I need to become aware of? My thoughts, emotions, feelings, sensation, motivations; that little voice in my head; my values, my principles; my place in the world. Although this might sound difficult, it is far easier than it may seem.
It all starts with a little hope. The acknowledgement that there is something different. That there is a different path. When we take that first step towards something new, hope turns to faith. I don’t need to know how it will turn out; it doesn’t matter. I just need to do it – to turn away from the path I have been travelling and, with awareness, take a new path. See where it leads.
When that path repeatedly turns out for the better, then I begin to trust that this path of my choosing is the right one for me. Trust is earned – it may take years to develop that trust. No matter. It will come. And later, I will learn, also, to trust myself.
Right now, I just need to start with a little bit of hope. That’s enough.
Things cannot go on as they are.
I have made my days too dark, she said.
A deep, deep dark,
too dark to clearly see myself inside the night.
And though in darkness wakefulness evades me,
I am locked outside the heavy gates of sleep.
But Hope listens from inside her shell
to the noisy life beyond the walls
Unseen, not yet known. But imagined.
There must be more she says.
If I try, I can hear it
seeping through the cracks and tiny pores of reality
that surround me.
But here, inside, it is dark
and humid with despair.
And with the next beat of her heart
she conceives a tiny breath of Faith.
Faith born from Hope.
A pirouette of expectation,
skipping between moments
with the abandon of one who is about to leave.
She learns quickly now.
Making friends with ground.
And air surrounds her.
And she can breathe.
And on her pale skin
with the excitement of a child in a new place,
Now she knows.
Now she can be sure
that while she unfolds with the happy scent of accomplishment
tomorrow will wait in compassionate contentment.
In that she trusts.
Trust born from Faith.
In this place.
As a gift, she closes her eyes,
and feels the breath inside of her,
for the first time,
like an infant baptism,
she can set her soul free.
From: The Saint Of Travellers. © 2018 David Webb